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Benefits of Prostate Massage

Friday, 29 April 2011 13:53 Written by conran 0 Comments

Despite the fact that millions of men throughout history have used prostate play and massage to increase sexual enjoyment and pleasure, only now are we waking up to this in the western world and getting over the anal thing to enjoy all the fantastic fun the prostate can deliver.

Even straight guys are exploring their ass more these days, with millions of men around the world waking up to their prostate in their quest to find new and interesting experiences and sensations to enjoy.

So what is the prostate and what can playing with it do for you?

The prostate is the gland which is considered to be the epicenter of the male climax. Located behind the penis and accessed through the anus, it is an incredibly sensitive area when massaged and played with.

Using toys or even a well placed finger can offer the male an immense and often intense sensation which is slightly different to that experienced through sex or masturbation.

Regular practitioners of prostate massage can often experience a constant state of pleasure when probing the glad, issuing a sticky fluid while they explore the area and experience the waves of pleasure. After a while, many men can experience a constant state of continuous pleasure on the scale of an orgasm while they massage the area, and only fully ejaculate when they allow pleasuring of the penis. When the final climax is achieved (either through direct penis masturbation or prostate play) the intensity of the climax can be quite extreme, with many claiming that the orgasm and pleasure they experience is several times more powerful than a traditional orgasm.

In addition to the increased pleasure, many who practice prostate stimulation also report an increased ejaculation, with more force and a greater amount of cum.

Not only can prostate stimulation be incredibly beneficial for pleasure and sex, but it’s actually good for your health too. Massaging the prostate increases the blood flow around the gland. This helps to maintain the health of this gland, much like masturbation does, but with a little more focus on the gland itself.

You do not need to do it, but many professionals now believe that regular prostate massage, when done correctly, can increase the general health of the prostate, maintain healthy semen production and reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer.

Check out this video to get an idea of prostate milking.

Tips

It is recommended that a prostate massager designed for the purpose be used as the finger is generally not long enough. You should never put anything up there not designed for the purpose.

Always use water based lube as silicone or oil based lubricants are considered unsafe for use with toys.

Seek medical advice if you are unsure of anything or experience unexpected discomfort.

Take it slow.

Don’t expect immediate increase of orgasm or semen. It takes practice but is very rewarding.

Use an anal douche to clean the area first and make the entire process much cleaner and more pleasant.

Have fun, and don’t be too “anal” about it all!

Is A Cock Fetish At Least Bisexual?

Wednesday, 27 April 2011 11:36 Written by conran 0 Comments

I recently read an interesting statistic presented by an article in the Times newspaper (UK) which stated that there are almost twice as many bisexual women as there are bisexual men. This began to make me think about the male same-sex research that I have done previously, and how male sexuality might be primarily influenced by social stigma and perception.

It is estimated that 2.8% of women state that they are bisexual, while only 1.8% of men state the same. But from my own research, it seems that many men recognize an appreciation for cock without ever making the change to declaring bisexuality, or even curiosity.

To these men, the act of watching other men having sex, masturbating, or even actually jerking off with another guy, does not propel them to question their sexuality. To them, they are simply straight guys who have a fetish or an appreciation for the penis or a specific sexual act – usually masturbation.

While my early research did reflect the expected low % of open bisexuality in male respondents, almost 30% of the men suggested that they were bi-curious – more men suggested that they were curious about male/male sex than identified as bisexual.

Through my research I have certainly formed the opinion that far more men who identify as heterosexual enjoy the idea of limited male/male sexual experiences than there are men who state that they are bisexual.

So why is this?

I firmly believe that male sexuality is far more complex than we are led to believe. Fetish plays its part, with a desire to watch a cock being enjoyed right at the top of the list for many men (just look at how much cock there is in straight porn!) and this attraction to the penis often confuses men who believe that they must choose a label and accept the lifestyle and all sexual acts which traditionally correspond.

Of course, the idea that a guy must have anal sex with other men in order to accept that he has a fetish for cock is nonsense, but social rules dictate that men must decide between the three specific groups.

If this shows anything, it shows that we needed the additional label of bi-curious to fill the void where many men find themselves. To state that you are bisexual is not acceptable to these men because it implies that they are “greedy” or somehow incapable of monogamy. To state that they are homosexual would of course not be accurate because they love sex with women. So there needed to be a place in-between where guy could enjoy their limited cock play with other guys, while continuing their heterosexual relationships with women and avoiding the social stigma of being bisexual.

The only problem now is making bi-curiosity as socially acceptable as bisexuality, heterosexuality and homosexuality. Thankfully, the teens out there right now are making these moves away from the labels and doing what they like with their friends of both sexes, spurred on by the imagery and information they find on-line. The journey will not be as long and difficult for them as it was for us, because they know how many of them there are, and a conversation is only a screen away.

Cruising Tips For Beginners

Friday, 22 April 2011 14:10 Written by conran 0 Comments

We probably all do it at least once in our lives, and many of us do it on a regular basis. Cruising is the art of picking up a guy in a public or semi-public location for some anonymous sex, often within walking distance of the place you met them.

There are numerous places all over the world renowned for cruising, and almost every major city or town has a park or other place where guys go, usually in the evenings, to hook up with other guys for anonymous sex.

You have probably even walked through one of these areas without even knowing it, and maybe that guy who gave you a menacing look when you passed him sitting on that deserted park bench was actually inviting you to play?

So this post is all about explaining the situation to all those out there who might have thought about it but have not been too sure, or know what to do or where to go.

: Image Courtesy High Octane

Although the above image from HighOctane shows two guys fucking outside, cruising is less about anal sex and more about oral and even just jerking off. There are actually a lot of closeted guys and curious straight men who go to these places looking for some cock to cock fun and wouldn’t consider fucking a guy in a bedroom never mind out in the open.

The primary urge for most men cruising is to shoot some cum in the company of another dude, and while this can be achieved through personal ads and on-line hook-up’s cruising allows for more anonymity and for guys to keep their activities away from their home. Perhaps they don’t have the privacy where they live. But another part of it is the expectation of finding just the right guy there. And of course, it’s quick and simple. Every guy is there for the same reason, so just attending is usually enough to guarantee sex, whereas an on-line hook-up might take time and conversation.

For guys just starting out, I would always suggest that you make sure you’re ready to accept the consequences of your actions. While it is increasingly rare, cruising grounds are often monitored by local authorities and arrests made when possible. It is a criminal offense for anyone to have sexual relations out in public, whether you’re gay or straight (there may be one or two places where this isn’t the case, but it is rare for there not to be a law prohibiting outdoor sex or nudity).

Finding a cruising ground is pretty easy. There are websites listing places by country, city and so on, like CruisingForSex for instance. But there are also local gay communities and sites where you might be able to find information on local sites.

If you can, tell someone where you are going, and don’t go at night. You want to make sure you are familiar with your surroundings and this is a lot harder to do in the dark. Safety comes first, and you need to make sure your phone is ready to go if you need to use it, and that you know where you are and how to get home.

Don’t get drunk or high before heading out. It might help you to relax and be more adventurous, but it also lowers your ability to make proper decisions and correctly assess your surroundings. You need to have a clear head and be able to trust your instincts, and clouding your thoughts with alcohol or drugs will certainly not help you. Plus, you don’t want to find an amazing hunk who wants to suck you off only to find you can’t keep it up!

Wherever possible, find info on the area and check for news and the reputation of the site. The website mentioned above is a great resource for finding out this information as shared by other users, so pay attention to this info and use it to make an informed decision.

Don’t feel pressured into anything. If you just want to feel another dudes dick in your hand, tell them you want to jerk off only. If they try to persuade you to do more, only go as far as you are comfortable going and leave if they are not happy about that. This is an exchange of sexual experience, not a lesson. You don’t need anyone telling you what you want to do or what feels good.

From experience, cruising is pretty easy once you start, and you’ll pick up on the slight glances and looks from other guys as you pass them. This all depends on the location of course, but you’ll probably find a few groups of guys just hanging out and chatting, looking out for someone new. Or you might have a guy walk past you and give you a certain look. If you look back and happen to see him doing the same, chances are he’ll slow down or stop, and there you have your invite to go over and say Hi.

It’s really not as dangerous or scary as some might think, and it can actually be quite rewarding in some ways. Guys often build friendships and find long-term sexual partners through these activities, and wherever you go for your first cruising experience, you’ll probably see that there are lots of guys who know each other.

The most important advice is be safe and use common sense. But have fun. You only live once!

The Truth About Penis Enlargement

Sunday, 17 April 2011 11:25 Written by conran 0 Comments

Okay, forget the pills and potions. If you hadn’t already come to the realisation yourself, there is no cream or supplement you can take that will specifically focus on the tissues of the penis to suddenly make it bigger!

It amazes me when I see such claims and it worries me that guys might think they actually work. I saw an ad just a few days ago which claimed that they had “unlocked the secret” and created a creamy substance that you just rub into your meat and you can gain an extra inch. If that were the case, you’d need to wear gloves or end up with extra long and fat fingers on one hand. And what happens if it touches your balls, do they get bigger too?

It is of course complete nonsense, and if it were not so dangerous and risky it would be laughable.

However, my intention here is to share with you some things which DO work. Just in case you’re interested in making the little Mr. a little wider or longer. First though, you should be reminded that size does not matter. While many of us are simply greedy and will use any excuse to play with some cock – and the more there is the better for us greedy cock worshippers – some have some serious concerns about their genitals. In such cases I would always suggest that medical advice be sought.

This post is for those who want to get a bigger cock for the fun of it or the fetish, not for improving self-confidence or sexual health.

So we’ve established that the pills and potions do not work. It is simply not possible. So what are the options?

Penis Pumps – You might be surprised to hear me say that they DO work. As has been pointed out on this great site for Wanking Toys, Penis Pumps do increase girth and sometimes length too, but it’s generally considered to be temporary. It’s a great option for an immediate size difference if you want more to stroke or give to a buddy, but it’s doubtful that any of them will be a permanent solution.

Penis Stretchers – These also work, and the method has actually been proven over time through various means and methods. Using a product like the Male Edge Penis Enlarger, the skin and body of the shaft is stretched over time, which encourages the creation of new tissues and cells. In turn this creates a longer and thicker penis. The same process is used throughout medicine to create new skin for grafting and even stretching of bones for increasing sever height problems. The stretching of tissue and skin has also been proven to work for foreskin restoration.

Surgery - Of course there is the surgical method. But like all surgery, this comes with significant risks, including permanent impotence and loss of sensation. And even then only inch or so can be gained. It’s painful, but quick, but so is death in battle and I wouldn’t want to do that either.

Jelqing - This is a manual method of increasing length and girth through what is effectively a massaging technique. The penis is gripped at the base in the ring of an “OK” hand gesture, then the hand is moved along the length of the flaccid shaft. You’re basically milking the penis. The blood is trapped and forces the inner chambers to expand, increasing their capacity over time. I have seen it reported that this works, but I would imagine that dedicated hours every week would need to spent in this activity to see any result.

As I mentioned above, I believe that if you are going for any of these methods to get a bigger penis, it should be for the right reasons. Many of us have fetishes and desires to change our appearance and find new ways to play, and when it comes to self enjoyment, by all means go ahead. But if your reasons are related to feelings of inadequacy or you feel that your sexual enjoyment is suffering because of the size of your penis, these methods are really not for you, at least not until you have sought some help from a medical professional.

Paranoia In The Locker Room?

Friday, 15 April 2011 14:41 Written by conran 0 Comments

A while ago I read an article from AskMen about Locker Room etiquette that left me a little bemused.

You see, I view the gym as a place to hang out with my buddies. Quite literally hanging out. It’s not a gay gym, and not all my buddies are (openly) into cock but it’s not one of those places where having your junk out in the open is a problem.

I’ve had many admiring glances in the locker room, and even when I haven’t been in the mood to be cruising for straight guys I’ve had quite a few opportunities to hook up with curious men.

Locker Room Guys

Image Courtesy High Octane

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Which is perhaps why a few points they raised in the article annoyed me a little.

Their very first point of contention is when they suggest that men keep their eyes to themselves. I’m sorry, but if a guy walks past with a massive floppy dick swinging about, or a visible semi (which is so common it’s laughable) I’m gonna be taking a little look! And what’s the problem anyway? Are guys scared about other dudes seeing their dick? They do know we have one too right?

Another suggestion they make is that guys shouldn’t be naked for too long. How long is too long? Should I scurry away and hide in a corner to get changed, or should I try that move where you pull your pants on under a wet towel?

Do I need a stopwatch so I can make sure my cock isn’t out in the wild for longer than they suggest? And if only they did suggest how long was a reasonable time to be naked – in a room solely used for members of the same sex to get naked!

I’m tempted to contact the author and remind him of what the word “Gym” actually means. It derives from the Greek word Gym-nos, meaning naked. Gymnasiums were intended to be a place where men could be naked and comfortable.

Personally, I view the gym locker room as a place I can be naked in the company of other men without it being a problem. It might be erotic for some of us, but we get that it’s not erotic for all.

I’m gonna have to say that I think the author of that article has some problems either with his body image or his sexuality. Guys secure in their sexuality and image generally don’t have such prudish attitudes to nudity, and I’m pretty sure many guys – straight, bi or gay – would view his opinions as a little over the top. The guys I see in the locker room every week certainly don’t live by his rules, I’m very glad to say!

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