Category: Lifestyle

Benefits of Prostate Massage

Friday, 29 April 2011 13:53 Written by conran 0 Comments

Despite the fact that millions of men throughout history have used prostate play and massage to increase sexual enjoyment and pleasure, only now are we waking up to this in the western world and getting over the anal thing to enjoy all the fantastic fun the prostate can deliver.

Even straight guys are exploring their ass more these days, with millions of men around the world waking up to their prostate in their quest to find new and interesting experiences and sensations to enjoy.

So what is the prostate and what can playing with it do for you?

The prostate is the gland which is considered to be the epicenter of the male climax. Located behind the penis and accessed through the anus, it is an incredibly sensitive area when massaged and played with.

Using toys or even a well placed finger can offer the male an immense and often intense sensation which is slightly different to that experienced through sex or masturbation.

Regular practitioners of prostate massage can often experience a constant state of pleasure when probing the glad, issuing a sticky fluid while they explore the area and experience the waves of pleasure. After a while, many men can experience a constant state of continuous pleasure on the scale of an orgasm while they massage the area, and only fully ejaculate when they allow pleasuring of the penis. When the final climax is achieved (either through direct penis masturbation or prostate play) the intensity of the climax can be quite extreme, with many claiming that the orgasm and pleasure they experience is several times more powerful than a traditional orgasm.

In addition to the increased pleasure, many who practice prostate stimulation also report an increased ejaculation, with more force and a greater amount of cum.

Not only can prostate stimulation be incredibly beneficial for pleasure and sex, but it’s actually good for your health too. Massaging the prostate increases the blood flow around the gland. This helps to maintain the health of this gland, much like masturbation does, but with a little more focus on the gland itself.

You do not need to do it, but many professionals now believe that regular prostate massage, when done correctly, can increase the general health of the prostate, maintain healthy semen production and reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer.

Check out this video to get an idea of prostate milking.

Tips

It is recommended that a prostate massager designed for the purpose be used as the finger is generally not long enough. You should never put anything up there not designed for the purpose.

Always use water based lube as silicone or oil based lubricants are considered unsafe for use with toys.

Seek medical advice if you are unsure of anything or experience unexpected discomfort.

Take it slow.

Don’t expect immediate increase of orgasm or semen. It takes practice but is very rewarding.

Use an anal douche to clean the area first and make the entire process much cleaner and more pleasant.

Have fun, and don’t be too “anal” about it all!

Is A Cock Fetish At Least Bisexual?

Wednesday, 27 April 2011 11:36 Written by conran 0 Comments

I recently read an interesting statistic presented by an article in the Times newspaper (UK) which stated that there are almost twice as many bisexual women as there are bisexual men. This began to make me think about the male same-sex research that I have done previously, and how male sexuality might be primarily influenced by social stigma and perception.

It is estimated that 2.8% of women state that they are bisexual, while only 1.8% of men state the same. But from my own research, it seems that many men recognize an appreciation for cock without ever making the change to declaring bisexuality, or even curiosity.

To these men, the act of watching other men having sex, masturbating, or even actually jerking off with another guy, does not propel them to question their sexuality. To them, they are simply straight guys who have a fetish or an appreciation for the penis or a specific sexual act – usually masturbation.

While my early research did reflect the expected low % of open bisexuality in male respondents, almost 30% of the men suggested that they were bi-curious – more men suggested that they were curious about male/male sex than identified as bisexual.

Through my research I have certainly formed the opinion that far more men who identify as heterosexual enjoy the idea of limited male/male sexual experiences than there are men who state that they are bisexual.

So why is this?

I firmly believe that male sexuality is far more complex than we are led to believe. Fetish plays its part, with a desire to watch a cock being enjoyed right at the top of the list for many men (just look at how much cock there is in straight porn!) and this attraction to the penis often confuses men who believe that they must choose a label and accept the lifestyle and all sexual acts which traditionally correspond.

Of course, the idea that a guy must have anal sex with other men in order to accept that he has a fetish for cock is nonsense, but social rules dictate that men must decide between the three specific groups.

If this shows anything, it shows that we needed the additional label of bi-curious to fill the void where many men find themselves. To state that you are bisexual is not acceptable to these men because it implies that they are “greedy” or somehow incapable of monogamy. To state that they are homosexual would of course not be accurate because they love sex with women. So there needed to be a place in-between where guy could enjoy their limited cock play with other guys, while continuing their heterosexual relationships with women and avoiding the social stigma of being bisexual.

The only problem now is making bi-curiosity as socially acceptable as bisexuality, heterosexuality and homosexuality. Thankfully, the teens out there right now are making these moves away from the labels and doing what they like with their friends of both sexes, spurred on by the imagery and information they find on-line. The journey will not be as long and difficult for them as it was for us, because they know how many of them there are, and a conversation is only a screen away.

Gay Virgin Advice

Sunday, 24 April 2011 11:58 Written by conran 0 Comments

I just saw a question on Yahoo! Q&A that got me thinking. It was from a 19 year old who is otherwise straight but wants to experiment. I think a lot of the responses are actually quite good. So I thought it might be fun to offer some advice here, as we probably get a lot of young guys visiting who have never actually been with another dude and may be unsure about it all.

: Guys enjoy different sexual activities together

Decide What You’re Looking For. It’s estimated that only 30% of guys who sleep with other guys actually make anal sex a part of their fun. Most are more interested in oral sex and jerking off. While many men find anal sex very pleasurable, it’s not for everyone. The sensation of penetrating a man’s ass is a nice one, and many guys also love the feeling of having a dick inside them, but it seems that the primary enjoyment between guys comes from playing and pleasuring the dick. It’s worthwhile trying to establish what it is that you enjoy about other guys. Do you just love the idea of playing with another guys cock, jerking and sucking it, or is the anal sex a very real part of your desires?

Preparing Yourself. If anal sex is a very important part of what you imagine your first gay sexual experience will involve, there are things you can do to make sure it goes well before you reach the point of taking a cock in your ass. There are plenty of toys out there, from anal probes designed to play with the prostate, to dildo’s designed to give you the sensation of having a dick in your butt. You can buy these on-line and experiment with the sensations, getting used to the feeling. It is always wise to buy an anal douche to go along with any anal toys you might buy. This allows you to clean the area adequately, and make the entire process a much cleaner one! You’d also want to have something like this handy before any anal sex with another guy. It’s only polite to make sure you’re clean before you have another guy sticking his dick up there!

Know Your Limits. We all have things that we just don’t want to do, and when it comes to sex there are many guys who stick to the things they enjoy and know when to say no to a partner who wants to take things further. If all you want to do is suck cock, make sure your partner knows this and agrees. And don’t be scared to put your foot down and draw the line if they try to pressure you into anything else. It’s great to be experimental, but not if that is forced upon you.

Use Protection. This goes without saying. It is vital to make sure you take responsibility for your health and the health of your partner by taking precautions. Remember, when you sleep with a guy you are sleeping with everyone they have slept with.

Find The Right Guy. The young man who posted the question on Yahoo! suggested that he has a few gay friends but he was scared of talking to them about it. He believed they would spread the news around and he’d be humiliated. Of course, it is safer to experiment with someone you know and trust, but this comes with the complexities of relationships and the risks of other friends and family finding out. If there is a guy you trust more than any others, someone you know would not exploit the discussion, then they would be the guy to go to for a discussion about it. Even if they’re straight, if all you’re seeking is some cock play they might actually be interested in this too. Many straight guys are interested in jerking off with others and sucking cock. If approaching someone you know is out of the question, consider checking some dating sites and get to know guys there, then maybe you could meet up with someone and they can help you to experiment safely. It should be remembered that stating you’re a virgin to gay sex will likely get you a lot of responses from guys looking to break someone in. lol

So there we have some basics, a little advice that I hope might help some of the readers here who have yet to experience sex between men. Abandon the stereotypes and don’t submit to what you imagine gay sex to be. It’s never that complex and your role is never set in stone. Most of all, enjoy the experience and don’t be scared to try the things you want to experience with other men.

Cruising Tips For Beginners

Friday, 22 April 2011 14:10 Written by conran 0 Comments

We probably all do it at least once in our lives, and many of us do it on a regular basis. Cruising is the art of picking up a guy in a public or semi-public location for some anonymous sex, often within walking distance of the place you met them.

There are numerous places all over the world renowned for cruising, and almost every major city or town has a park or other place where guys go, usually in the evenings, to hook up with other guys for anonymous sex.

You have probably even walked through one of these areas without even knowing it, and maybe that guy who gave you a menacing look when you passed him sitting on that deserted park bench was actually inviting you to play?

So this post is all about explaining the situation to all those out there who might have thought about it but have not been too sure, or know what to do or where to go.

: Image Courtesy High Octane

Although the above image from HighOctane shows two guys fucking outside, cruising is less about anal sex and more about oral and even just jerking off. There are actually a lot of closeted guys and curious straight men who go to these places looking for some cock to cock fun and wouldn’t consider fucking a guy in a bedroom never mind out in the open.

The primary urge for most men cruising is to shoot some cum in the company of another dude, and while this can be achieved through personal ads and on-line hook-up’s cruising allows for more anonymity and for guys to keep their activities away from their home. Perhaps they don’t have the privacy where they live. But another part of it is the expectation of finding just the right guy there. And of course, it’s quick and simple. Every guy is there for the same reason, so just attending is usually enough to guarantee sex, whereas an on-line hook-up might take time and conversation.

For guys just starting out, I would always suggest that you make sure you’re ready to accept the consequences of your actions. While it is increasingly rare, cruising grounds are often monitored by local authorities and arrests made when possible. It is a criminal offense for anyone to have sexual relations out in public, whether you’re gay or straight (there may be one or two places where this isn’t the case, but it is rare for there not to be a law prohibiting outdoor sex or nudity).

Finding a cruising ground is pretty easy. There are websites listing places by country, city and so on, like CruisingForSex for instance. But there are also local gay communities and sites where you might be able to find information on local sites.

If you can, tell someone where you are going, and don’t go at night. You want to make sure you are familiar with your surroundings and this is a lot harder to do in the dark. Safety comes first, and you need to make sure your phone is ready to go if you need to use it, and that you know where you are and how to get home.

Don’t get drunk or high before heading out. It might help you to relax and be more adventurous, but it also lowers your ability to make proper decisions and correctly assess your surroundings. You need to have a clear head and be able to trust your instincts, and clouding your thoughts with alcohol or drugs will certainly not help you. Plus, you don’t want to find an amazing hunk who wants to suck you off only to find you can’t keep it up!

Wherever possible, find info on the area and check for news and the reputation of the site. The website mentioned above is a great resource for finding out this information as shared by other users, so pay attention to this info and use it to make an informed decision.

Don’t feel pressured into anything. If you just want to feel another dudes dick in your hand, tell them you want to jerk off only. If they try to persuade you to do more, only go as far as you are comfortable going and leave if they are not happy about that. This is an exchange of sexual experience, not a lesson. You don’t need anyone telling you what you want to do or what feels good.

From experience, cruising is pretty easy once you start, and you’ll pick up on the slight glances and looks from other guys as you pass them. This all depends on the location of course, but you’ll probably find a few groups of guys just hanging out and chatting, looking out for someone new. Or you might have a guy walk past you and give you a certain look. If you look back and happen to see him doing the same, chances are he’ll slow down or stop, and there you have your invite to go over and say Hi.

It’s really not as dangerous or scary as some might think, and it can actually be quite rewarding in some ways. Guys often build friendships and find long-term sexual partners through these activities, and wherever you go for your first cruising experience, you’ll probably see that there are lots of guys who know each other.

The most important advice is be safe and use common sense. But have fun. You only live once!

How To Hook-Up With A Straight Dude

Wednesday, 20 April 2011 13:41 Written by conran 0 Comments

Contrary to popular belief, getting sex from straight guys is pretty easy once you know how. It takes a lot of patience, but it’s definitely worth the wait. I should clarify that many men have a brick wall that you will never get through, not even if you had the option of suggesting a threesome with your good friend Pamela Anderson. Some guys just have absolutely zero interest in cock. But thankfully many straight guys do. I know, shocking!

Straight Boys Sharing Cock

Image Courtesy BrokeStraightBoys

And how do I know this? Because I have a pretty large circle of straight guys who I regularly meet up with to share some porn, jerk each other off and even suck cock. I have only ever managed to convince two straight guys to fuck me, and only one to try getting fucked, but if you’re a fan of hard cock like me, jerking and sucking a straight dude is heaven.

So how do I do it?

It might be considered unfair to say it, but camp guys will loose out here. Most straight guys will not get it on with a feminine guy or someone they view as obviously “gay”. You actually need to keep sexuality out of it altogether if you stand any chance of fooling around with a straight guy.

Be a Buddy first. You need to have a comfort level between you, which means you need to have trust. These guys are not intentionally looking for a guy to fuck around with, they’re looking for a drinking buddy or someone to talk about the football with. Get to know them and be a regular bloke, just a friend they know they can trust.

Leave Sexuality Out. You don’t want to be talking about sexuality at all if you can help it. Straight guys don’t talk about shit like that, and in 90% of cases where a gay guy wants to get it on with a straight guy he fucks it up by talking about “confusion” and “experimenting”. You don’t want to be suggesting to your straight friend that there is anything “unusual” about your friendship.

Be Comfortable With Nudity. Seeing another dudes cock is the first step to building a bond where sexual sharing can be enjoyed. There are plenty of opportunities to get the ball rolling. Suggest the gym or a sporting activity where you might get to shower or get changed and don’t be scared about letting it all hang out. But don’t go overboard and wander around with your cock out for half an hour. Arrange a night out at a club and wait until he’s at your place before you step out of the shower. Jokingly flash him on a drunken night (most will return the flash!)

Arrange An Opportunity. The final step is to arrange a situation where he cannot help but get horny. The best method I have found is having a few beers while watching a movie, leaving a porn DVD (something they would probably like – not Gay Twink Fuckers 2) in the player and suggesting he choose what to watch. Chances are good he’ll make a comment about watching the porn when he finds it. If not, wait until the end of the movie and half-joking suggest maybe watching the porn. If he absolutely shows no interest even after a few beers, give up. But most guys won’t have a problem with it at all. If it has sat there in view throughout the regular movie he’s probably been looking at it and wondering how he can suggest watching it.

Step It Up. The rest was easy, now comes the hard part. Different methods work with different guys, but simply massaging your bulge while you watch it will send the signal to him that you would be okay with him doing the same. Most guys I have fucked around with follow my lead all the way to jerking off together. If you’ve made it this far and you see him adjusting his cock, you can do one of two things. Either say you’re really horny and ask if he minds if you jerk off, or just haul your cock out and get busy. Most guys will say they don’t mind if you ask first and after a few minutes will do the same. If you just go ahead and do it, some will have an attitude and leave. You need to judge this yourself.

Going Further. After the first time you’ll probably find yourselves doing it again a few times, and after about the third time the guy is usually totally relaxed and really into it, probably watching you stroking as much as watching the porn. Now is the time to bring up a story about jerking off with your buddies when you were 19 and how you swapped hands to make it feel better…

The rest, as they say, is history.

Most guys have a fetish for jerking off, it’s like our favorite hobby. Doing it with a friend shouldn’t be too much of a big deal; most of us did it with friends when we were teenagers, right? As I mentioned in the post Research Suggests… (Straight Men and Masturbation) plenty of guys want this hobby to be shared between friends. Moving it on from there and making it more than that isn’t hard to do, as long as you keep things in check and know the limits of your friendship.

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