We probably all do it at least once in our lives, and many of us do it on a regular basis. Cruising is the art of picking up a guy in a public or semi-public location for some anonymous sex, often within walking distance of the place you met them.

There are numerous places all over the world renowned for cruising, and almost every major city or town has a park or other place where guys go, usually in the evenings, to hook up with other guys for anonymous sex.

You have probably even walked through one of these areas without even knowing it, and maybe that guy who gave you a menacing look when you passed him sitting on that deserted park bench was actually inviting you to play?

So this post is all about explaining the situation to all those out there who might have thought about it but have not been too sure, or know what to do or where to go.

Although the above image from HighOctane shows two guys fucking outside, cruising is less about anal sex and more about oral and even just jerking off. There are actually a lot of closeted guys and curious straight men who go to these places looking for some cock to cock fun and wouldn’t consider fucking a guy in a bedroom never mind out in the open.

The primary urge for most men cruising is to shoot some cum in the company of another dude, and while this can be achieved through personal ads and on-line hook-up’s cruising allows for more anonymity and for guys to keep their activities away from their home. Perhaps they don’t have the privacy where they live. But another part of it is the expectation of finding just the right guy there. And of course, it’s quick and simple. Every guy is there for the same reason, so just attending is usually enough to guarantee sex, whereas an on-line hook-up might take time and conversation.

For guys just starting out, I would always suggest that you make sure you’re ready to accept the consequences of your actions. While it is increasingly rare, cruising grounds are often monitored by local authorities and arrests made when possible. It is a criminal offense for anyone to have sexual relations out in public, whether you’re gay or straight (there may be one or two places where this isn’t the case, but it is rare for there not to be a law prohibiting outdoor sex or nudity).

Finding a cruising ground is pretty easy. There are websites listing places by country, city and so on, like CruisingForSex for instance. But there are also local gay communities and sites where you might be able to find information on local sites.

If you can, tell someone where you are going, and don’t go at night. You want to make sure you are familiar with your surroundings and this is a lot harder to do in the dark. Safety comes first, and you need to make sure your phone is ready to go if you need to use it, and that you know where you are and how to get home.

Don’t get drunk or high before heading out. It might help you to relax and be more adventurous, but it also lowers your ability to make proper decisions and correctly assess your surroundings. You need to have a clear head and be able to trust your instincts, and clouding your thoughts with alcohol or drugs will certainly not help you. Plus, you don’t want to find an amazing hunk who wants to suck you off only to find you can’t keep it up!

Wherever possible, find info on the area and check for news and the reputation of the site. The website mentioned above is a great resource for finding out this information as shared by other users, so pay attention to this info and use it to make an informed decision.

Don’t feel pressured into anything. If you just want to feel another dudes dick in your hand, tell them you want to jerk off only. If they try to persuade you to do more, only go as far as you are comfortable going and leave if they are not happy about that. This is an exchange of sexual experience, not a lesson. You don’t need anyone telling you what you want to do or what feels good.

From experience, cruising is pretty easy once you start, and you’ll pick up on the slight glances and looks from other guys as you pass them. This all depends on the location of course, but you’ll probably find a few groups of guys just hanging out and chatting, looking out for someone new. Or you might have a guy walk past you and give you a certain look. If you look back and happen to see him doing the same, chances are he’ll slow down or stop, and there you have your invite to go over and say Hi.

It’s really not as dangerous or scary as some might think, and it can actually be quite rewarding in some ways. Guys often build friendships and find long-term sexual partners through these activities, and wherever you go for your first cruising experience, you’ll probably see that there are lots of guys who know each other.

The most important advice is be safe and use common sense. But have fun. You only live once!